Someone to Depend on

There are very few people that you can rely on in life.  In the 21st century many of the people that we cross paths with, befriend or fall in love with are often too involved with themselves to really care about anyone else.  They may be cute, great dancers or fun at parties and there is value in that but a lot of people don’t have anything meaningful to offer in a consistent long term relationship.

I’m an unmarried woman and one thing I want to be able to say about my (future) man is that he never let me down.  I want a man whose word is as good as gold.  If he says that he is going to do something I want to be able to rest assured that I can consider his promise a done deal.  I want a man that says what he means and means what he says.  That’s how I try to be and I really don’t think it’s very hard.

Regardless of all of the feminist rhetoric most of us grew up with a woman wants a man that she can depend on.  I think that all adults should be independent whether they are male or female.  But even independent women want a man that will prove to her that he there for her in a way that he is not available to anyone else.  That’s where romance starts.

If I get a flat can I call you?  If my engine dies will you be around to help?  If we make plans are you going to keep our date or will you get “busy”?  Are you going to tell me you love me or really show me.  I think that love is an action not just an emotion.

Once you get past all of the superficial prerequisites for dating such as looks, money, height, occupation, age, race, etc. all you are left with is character.  I think a person’s true character surfaces after three to six months of dating.  As I’ve gotten older that time period has gotten shorter.

There’s nothing sexier than a man that can be relied on in word and actions.  Quality character is sexy.  Truth, sincerity and honesty look great on men and women.  I’m sure that guys don’t like flaky girls either.   I think it’s time for men and women to start valuing each other more.  Icing is pretty and sweet but it’s worthless on it’s own.

Damian Marley – There for You