I love femininity and I love women. I enjoy being a woman and I don’t ever remember a time when I did not delight in feminine interests such as make up and hair care products. I’m what you would call a girls girl. I think that femininity is something to be admired and respected. Unfortunately, in today’s world I feel my opinion puts me in the minority.
In my observations femininity has become something that people make fun of, disrespect and try to own and control. Women that use make up and other products to give themselves a more feminine appearance are labeled high maintenance, thirsty or slutty. I do not understand how people have come to this conclusion. What’s wrong with a woman wanting to look feminine and presenting herself nicely?
It also seems to me that in 2015 femininity has become synonymous with slutty. That’s very disturbing to me because I believe that it is possible to be a mature feminine woman without giving the appearance that you are sexually available to any man that winks in your direction.
I feel like some women have decided to present themselves in a more gender neutral way because it gives them a greater sense of power and makes them less vulnerable. I suppose I can’t blame them. Femininity is no longer seen as something to be protected, cherished and respected. In modern times it is often thought of something to be controlled, abused and attacked.
I try to present myself with feminine grace physically and with actions. That is not to say that I play dumb or make myself passive to men around me. I think that femininity can be smart, strong, successful, powerful and independent.
I don’t think that femininity is something that exists strictly for a man’s pleasure. It’s natural for a man to appreciate feminine beauty but it is not theirs to own. A woman’s beauty is her own and it should be used to glorify God. The way she presents herself is a reflection of who she is, and who her creator is.
I believe this misunderstanding is where the lack of respect and need to control femininity comes from. People like to put down what they don’t understand and what intimidates them. The availability of pornography and business marketing strategies have made men believe that attractive, young women should be readily available to them.
Men are taught that they are entitled to feminine beauty. Therefore, women, especially attractive ones get labeled thots, hoes, bitches etc. Attractive young women are seen as objects to be used and tossed to the side. When they are old or used too much they are to be tossed aside for good.
Femininity is a part of God’s plan. I’m a believer in Christ and I believe that femininity and masculinity are a part of God’s plan for our lives and the world we live in. Pardon the reference to Eastern religion but masculinity and femininity are a part of the world’s yin and yang. Both are necessary for harmony and balance. Both are needed and should be respected.
Women should contribute beauty , softness and a delicate nature to the world. American culture is dying for that. The world we live in had become much more male dominant and masculine. We are loosing respect for the feminine grace that gives us appreciation for art, poetry, flowers, fashion, fine china, flowers etc. We are much more interested in things being fast, cheap, and in large quantities. We love violent entertainment and sexualized humor. It’s because we have no real respect for women any more and women are socialized to be more like men.
That leaves very few people left to be ladies. Ladies, women hold any society together. We set the standards for behavior and social mores. I think that women need to have more respect for feminine grace. It starts with us. Men will follow.
Love yourself as a woman and invest in yourself physically, intellectually and emotionally. Your body is a temple. You are worth good things and time. The world desperately needs your feminine grace.
1 Corinthians 6:19 Or don’t you know your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you? Don’t you know that you have the Holy Spirit from God, and you don’t belong to yourselves?
2 thoughts on “The Crusade for Femininity”
I actually like the parallel with yin and yang – it calls for some masculinity being a part of femininity, and some femininity being a part of masculinity. It would account for the independent women of my family who break with convention and blaze their own trails. The ones I know never really seem to put much stock in femininity – if they have to choose between make-up and making dinner, the latter wins every time. They also tend to live in isolated communities where there’s no point in dressing up when you’re not going anywhere or doing anything. I just think it’s better to say that one style doesn’t fit everyone – for some women they take to being feminine quite naturally – but those who don’t should be seen as ‘less womanly’ or ‘less feminine’ than women who are naturals.
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