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International Women’s Day was Friday, March 8. I thought nothing of it on Friday because I don’t know how to observe the day. Do we go shopping, bake a cake, have a parade or what? Beats me.
But over the weekend I ran across a video on YouTube of an Air Force service woman complaining about her subordinates having bad attitudes.
The soldiers post is bad enough but as always the comments underneath the video were far more extreme. I read dozens and dozens of comments expressing disdain for and superiority to Black women. YouTube is a haven for those who hate Black women. Insults to Black women can be found underneath videos that have absolutely nothing to do with Black women. I read this stuff and I’m like, sheesh can I live? I’m just minding my business and trying to live here.
There is a YouTube host by the name of Tommy Sotomayor that has been preaching his hatred of Black women on social media for years now. His success has inspired copy cats and their sentiment is repeated all over YouTube and Twitter. I’ve come to the conclusion that the easiest way for a Black man that isn’t a celebrity to gain a large social media following is by degrading Black women.
Stereotypes are usually based in truth but I still don’t find the perceptions that people have of Black women to be fair. I am familiar with “Black attitude” and have encountered it. I’ve dished some out. So I’m not saying that “Black attitude” doesn’t exist. I’m just saying that it is misunderstood and sometimes justified.
Hostility towards Black women has been very open in the media for years. As I pointed out before it is all over the place and the Black community is not even a safe place from it because Black people often hold the most hostility and do a lot to perpetuate the harmful stereotypes.
Black women are often described as terrible mothers, terrible domestic partners, terrible people and ugly. I’ve seen numerous social media posts telling Black women that we are the so called bottom of the barrel women. With so much negativity aimed at Black women I don’t understand why anyone is surprised that they would have attitudes or feelings of bitterness and resentment. It is inevitable that all of the negativity would affect the image of Black women and girls.
Black women are often put down for the way they present themselves. A lot of Black women wear hair weave around the world. In countries outside of the US skin bleaching seems to be common. Men that enjoy degrading Black women by telling them that they need to learn to love themselves.
What people choose to ignore is that European features are the standard of beauty globally and women of African descent that alter their appearance to look more European are trying to compete. They are competing for economic opportunities and the affection of men. Black women often feel that they need to make themselves look more European to gain the attention of Black men.
Black women are human beings and like all human beings they are seeking out validation and love. Black women are fighting to gain economic resources in this modern economy. Most of us are raised to believe that we need to alter our appearance to look more European in some form in order to do that. Anyone that says that looking more African and less European in this world is an asset is not speaking the truth.
So that covers the why of some of the actions of Black women but that’s not where the bias stops. I admit. Some Black women have an attitude and are easy to trigger. But so are a lot of other women that aren’t Black. Why aren’t those women stereotyped as having bad attitudes? In fact, when certain races of women have temper tantrums men think it’s cute, sexy and exciting.
If you take a gander at my profile pic you can clearly see that I am a Black woman. I think I’m a pretty nice and easy going person. I don’t like to be at odds with people or have conflicts. But I’m not afraid to stand up for myself. And I’ve noticed as a Black woman there are times when I have had to struggle to be heard. When I don’t stand for being treated poorly or I feel the need to make myself clear so I can ensure that I am being heard and understood people often like to act is if I am the aggressor and they are the victim.
All a Black woman needs to do is stand up for herself or assert herself and many people will be offended by it because the woman that they deem as beneath them or bottom of the barrel is asking for fair treatment. Others actually enjoy the nasty stereotypes of Black women. It gives them a fool to laugh at and someone to make them feel superior. I have had problems in the American workforce for not fulfilling the Black woman stereotypes. A Black woman will be left in peace if she plays the role that others thinks she should play.
I grew up in the Detroit area and now I live in Kansas City, MO. I’ve always lived places with sizeable Black populations. So indeed, I have met unpleasant Black women but I’ve also met a lot of sweet as pie, smart, professional, family oriented, hard working, feminine, full of personality and drop dead gorgeous. In fact, I think that most Black women are lovely people. Most of the people that I have been close to and supported me in my life have been Black women. I have absolutely no reason to put down Black women or try to put a different race of women on a pedestal.
Black women are like everyone else and should be judged as individuals. Give us a break. And no, I’m not pleading with anyone to like or love us. That is a personal matter. But I don’t think that we deserve the constant degradation that we receive. It’s not even as if we are being accused of pulling off mass shootings or drive bys. Even if you buy into the stereotypes we still really aren’t all that bad. How can we be? Black women don’t hold much power in society so we aren’t even able to hurt anyone. I don’t understand how we became the boogeyman.
As far as the soldier that made that video I have some theories about why she has a problem with her subordinates but I will keep that to myself. My hypothesis is not politically correct and would do nothing but hurt feelings and spread negativity. I know when to keep my mouth shut. I only know what this soldier shared in her profanity laced tirade which said a lot about her.
This woman clearly loves drama because there are other, less public, more professional and mature ways that she could deal with disrespectful subordinates. I’m sure the Air Force has some sort of disciplinary system in place to deal with valid complaints. And this lady said she wanted to fight the Black women that reported to her. For goodness sakes that’s not lady like at all. Is violence really necessary? I’m thinking that she is the problem here.
So anyway the world really needs to back off of Black women and girls. We don’t deserve the hostility. We’re just trying to live our lives. In the past year or so I’ve heard of about three stories of elementary school aged girls committing suicide because of bullying at school. One news report said that a girl was being teased because of her hair. She looked like an average little Black girl with two Black parents to me. This negativity has consequences.
The mainstream American feminist movement rarely addresses the concerns of Black women. Body positivity and other modern feminist causes exist to improve the conditions of affluent White women that only seem to have cellulite to worry about. So in honor of International Women’s Day please, give Black women a break. We’re having a hard time out here.