I’ve read two very disturbing stories this week and both ended with Black men being killed. In both stories White people were made to feel uncomfortable and they thought that their discomfort was enough of a reason to confront and kill a man. This precedent has been set by American law enforcement.
We’ve all heard dozens of stories by now where a law enforcement officer opened fire on a citizen and killed them. The officer’s excuse is often I feared for my life. They rarely say that they were assaulted in any way. They claim that they were simply afraid and that was enough of a defense. Most of these officers avoid jail time and some of them continue careers in law enforcement.
The notion that being fearful is enough of a reason to kill a person has spread to the masses. Over the Fourth of July weekend in Aurora, CO a White man killed a Black man because of an argument that started when the Black man’s children were outside popping fireworks. The noise from the fireworks startled the White man’s dog. He and his fiance confronted the children and their mother and assaulted the mother. The Black man came out of his apartment and was shot in the chest by the White man.
The couple with the dog brought guns outside to confront a woman and her young children about the noise they were making with fireworks. They were ready to react with violence because of children celebrating a holiday with noise makers. They were prepared to harm and kill and they did; because their dog was afraid.
In Peoria, AZ a 17 year old young Black or perhaps mixed race man stopped into a Circle K gas station last Thursday after work. He was followed into the gas station that by a 27 year old White man that was made uncomfortable by the rap music he played in his car. While the 17 year old was at the pop machine the 27 year old came behind him and slit his throat and stabbed him in the back. The young man stumbled out of the gas station and died in the parking lot.
The older man claimed that he had been harmed by people that listened to rap music in the past. He felt the need to be proactive and offensive; because he claimed to be afraid and in fear for his life. He felt justified because of his fear.
I supposed this is nothing new. American racism has always been fueled by White fear and White Americans have always used that fear to justify violence against Blacks and others. But “I feared for my life” has become a platitude over the last decade. We expect to hear it every time there is a new story of police misconduct or violence.
And this country arrogantly accepts this excuse because White lives matter and Black lives don’t. I lay the blame for the popularization of this phrase and thought pattern at the feet of American police officers. I also blame feminism to an extent as well since they can’t tell the difference between social awkwardness that is caused by innocent flirtation and actual sexual harassment and assault. Most Americans need to grow up. Adult hood can be scary and uncomfortable.
It’s mind boggling to think that anyone can be so arrogant and have such a sense of superiority to think that their comfort and sense of security is more important than someone else’s physical well being or life. What kind of mental gymnastics did these people go through in order to see themselves as a victims and valiant protectors as opposed to aggressive, blood thirsty thugs?
I will never understand them but White America needs to be shaken out of it’s self righteousness, perpetual victim hood and violent reactions. Aggressive behavior masked as fear is a farce. White America is use to being pandered to and having it’s feeling coddled. As an American that loves her country I’m here to say –ck your –cking feelings!
The African American community is very hypocritical. I’m sure you’ve seen the video of the woman that licked the ice cream at Walmart and put in back and left the store. Yes, it’s nasty and childish and she is facing criminal consequences for food tampering. But I think that the social media drama is another example of fake outrage and an on line lynch mob.
Black Americans are very forgiving and protective of Black men. No matter what Black men do they will find grace within the Black community. Pictures were released of pop star Rihanna’s face after being severely beaten by Chris Brown and continued to have successful recording career. Marion Barry was caught on video tape smoking crack while he was the mayor of Washington D.C.
He served time in jail for his crime. Got re elected to the city council, ran for mayor of D.C. and was re elected. There was a video tape of R. Kelly involved in sex acts with young girls. He went on trial for the crime beat the charge and came out with another album which became legendary. African Americans forgave and supported all of these men after they were caught red handed committing serious crimes.
Those are high profile examples of the grace that Black Americans extend Black men but it happens among people that are out of the public eye as well. We see it on the news when a young man is accused of pulling a drive by or robbing a liquor store. His family defends him on the news and says that he is really a nice guy. Excuses are made for such behavior by saying that he was trying to survive or he had a tough upbringing. So be it. But do people want to crucify this girl in Texas for licking ice cream?
I get it, it’s gross. But did anybody die? Can germs even survive on a cold surface in a freezer? First off I think that the criminal justice system in the US is a prime example of government over reach. I think it’s a gross injustice that people spend time in jail over traffic violations and unpaid parking tickets. The parole system in America is a set up. It sounds to me that being on parole is like walking a tight rope unless the parolee has strong support system around them.
The justice system targets and is particularly heavy handed when African Americans are involved. The criminal justice system has done a lot to hinder Black American progress and destroy Black families. Yet, this week in 2019 Black people are all over social media crucifying a teenager in Texas and rallying for her to get twenty years in prison for licking ice cream and putting it back. It’s Black women that are leading the lynch mob on Black social media outlets. Where is the grace and forgiveness for her? Why do boys that pull drive bys get sympathy but girls that lick ice cream don’t?
Granted, I don’t see this ice cream licking as my problem. I don’t live in Texas. I don’t buy ice cream often. I avoid Walmart. And the flavor she licked doesn’t look like something I would choose. And I think that I would notice if I bought a tub of ice cream and it had been licked. That girl’s prank doesn’t affect me in the least. But I’m empathetic so I can put myself in the shoes of the ice cream buying public. This doesn’t warrant twenty years in jail or even six months. At most she should have to do community service for the weekend.
Give the girl a break. Ice cream licking isn’t an epidemic like gang violence or drug trafficking is. This is a one off which is why it is shocking (or funny) to people. She did not commit a violent crime. At worst she committed a property crime worth about $3.99. The punishment needs to fit the crime and the crime is insignificant.
Chris Brown shot his mouth off in a recently released new track and it’s got the Black gossip blogs on You Tube in a tizzy. He said something to the affect of he only has sex with Black women with nice hair. How sweet. Lucky them. That song lyric has started a poop storm. I’m glad because #teambreezy needs a wake up call.
Before I go on about how stupid I think #teambreezy is I must confess my own problematic favs. I make no excuses. I’m just admitting to my hypocrisy but I’m still going to talk trash on #teambreezy and their idol.
My problematic favs:
The Kansas City Chiefs – There have been some very special people that have played or currently played for the Chiefs and by special I don’t mean exceptional athletic ability. I’m mean menaces to society. I saw a Facebook comment calling all Chief fans scum bags for defending our star receiver despite his current controversy. I got nothin’. That commenter is correct we are scum bags.
Anyone that’s been to a Chiefs game knows that we are scum bags. Guilty as charged. I won’t argue. But heck, we want the Chiefs to make it to the Superbowl next year and my man Tyreek runs with the speed of an animal. I’m still mad, sad and shocked that Party Boy Hunt is gone.
The NFL as a whole – I never once considered boycotting the NFL. I don’t enjoy much but football is one of the things I actually like. The NFL is problematic from the owners, to the players, to the fans, to the refs. But I’m not going to stop watching. I will continue to watch and just complain about everything.
R. Kelly – The debate is not whether Robert is guilty or not. He’s guilty as all hell and should have gotten a jail sentence. He beat his charges in a trial that was crooked as a hairpin. So what am I supposed to do about that? I wasn’t on the jury. That’s the question I have for the #cancelrkelly folks.
The debate is whether we should continue to listen to his music. I’ve owned 12 Play since 1993 and it’s downloaded to my mp3 player. I promise I will turn him down at stop lights when I have my windows down OK. And if I ever get married I will instruct the wedding DJ to wait to play Step in the Name of Love late in the evening. Me not listening to his music isn’t going to undo anything that has been done.
I’m sure that I could think of more problematic favs if I really thought about it. But like I said earlier I don’t really like very much. But now that I have confessed my sins back to #teambreezy.
Of all the annoying fan bases I’ve seen on social media #teambreezy is honestly the worst and that says a lot. They bother me more than the idol worshipping, bullying Beyhive. They need therapy worse than self depreciating, chronically depressed Dallas Cowboy fans. #teambreezy irks me more than Trump supporters.
#teambreezy has been out here looking stupid for years. These women publicly fawn over a man that is as well known for beating the living hell out of a woman than for his music. This goes beyond having a crush on a bad boy rock star. I really think that there is something wrong with these girls.
So why are any of us surprised by Chris Brown’s brash behavior and rudeness towards women? He’s already proven that he is a horrible man with bitterness in his heart towards women. And women have proven that they don’t care. He still has plenty of willing female companions and a legion of fans. This is why women and feminism don’t get taken seriously. Women don’t even demand basic respect and kindness such as don’t severely beat a woman in the face.
Chris Brown did his time under the law so he is free to further his career. I can understand #teambreezy positively critiquing and enjoying the music. But these psychos are in love with him. If they had the chance to have an abusive relationship with Chris Brown they would jump at the chance.
#teambreezy reminds me of the episode of The Office when Jim was talking to Dwight about his dream life. Dwight mentioned his boss. Jim stopped him and asked him why he had a boss in his dreams. Dwight defended having a boss in his fantasy life as opposed to being the boss or being independently wealthy. #teambreezy is in love with a man that is a known abuser. Of all the celebrities they could have a fantasy relationship with they choose the one that beat a woman in the face. Some people can’t be helped.
The Black drama channels love to expose colorist attitudes of Black male celebrities. I’m tired of that and don’t care anymore. It’s beating a dead horse at this point and nothing is changing. Black people are really starting to bore me with this s—.
Chris hasn’t learned anything from the criticism he’s getting either. He is digging his heels in and saying that only ugly women are mad. That’s not a very good business model. If you were running a diner would you tell people that they have to be solid 8/10s to be served in your restaurant. If you did that you would go out of business pretty fast. And Mr. Brown is thirty years old saying this foolishness. THIRTY!
It’s obvious that most famous men like thin women. Imagine one of the Jonas Bros. or an MLB pitcher or whatever publicly making rude remarks about overweight women and telling them that they would never have anything to do with them. Feminists would go off and no one would be defending his preference or telling them that they are too sensitive. But then again men wouldn’t dare publicly insult White women even if they aren’t his type. For some reason there is a minority of men that feels the need to scream from the rooftops what their preferences are even when they are not asked.
So I’m glad that Chris made that nasty remark in his song. I hope that it will help #teambreezy snap out of their trance since the pictures of Rhianna’s battered face don’t seem to make a difference. Stop being taken advantage of ladies. Chris Brown doesn’t like you. You’re just a cash cow to him. He doesn’t even really like women with so called good or nice hair or however he phrased it. They are disposable vaginas to him. Put your Chris Brown fandom behind you and move on. It’s OK we’ve all loved and admired the wrong person at one time or another.
I learned about Ombre Manicures also known as Baby Boomer Manicures on Pinterest. I have been intrigued by them for a while now. I just love how they look. At first I didn’t even know what they were or how the look was accomplished. I wasn’t sure if I could get a Baby Boomer manicure on natural nails. I thought they might be press on nails that came out of a package like that.
I’m fairly frugal and wanted to see if I could do the manicure myself. I am pretty good at home manicures and I have some experience with using acrylic paints so I thought I could do it. I failed. Nail polish doesn’t blend the way acrylic and oil paint does.
I found a You Tube video on how to give yourself an Ombre Manicure but it looked messy and I think it would take several attempts before it came out right. When I factored in the time and cost of materials to give myself the manicure I decided it would be easier to go to a salon.
When I walked into the salon I asked if they knew how to do a Baby Boomer manicure and if it can be done on natural nails. They didn’t know what that was at first so I described it and they said “Oh Ombre Nails”. The nail technician filed my nails with that small, round, drill like filing tool that they have. She put some sort of a base on my nails. She dipped my fingers in pink powder. Then she dusted the tips of my nails with white powder and put a top coat over that.
I don’t think that the powder that was put on my nails will come off as simply as it is to remove nail polish. That will be a pain. I went through that with the gel nail polish trend from around 2011. What a racket! You have to go the the salon to get the polish removed so you end up just getting your nails done again and probably a pedicure and your eyebrows waxed too. It’s hard to jump off that train. But it looks like I’m going to board it again and ride a while.
During the gel nails wave I eventually had to scrape the polish off with a pair of scissors. I scraped the top layers of my nails off along with the polish and I just had to wait for them to grow back. But my nail polish rarely chipped off so there was a benefit to it. It just got to be expensive.
The nail tech filed my nails into the coffin shape which I’m not comfortable with. It’s hard to pick things up off of tables now and my nails just feel funny now. But overall I’m happy with my manicure. The next time I get my nails done I will ask for a darker pink powder. I wanted a subtle and natural look so I asked for a light pink but I think I would like a little more contrast. The manicure cost $45. I also got my eyebrows waxed for $10 and I left a tip of $6 or $8 I don’t quite remember. It was money well spent.