Modern Dating Scam: The Ride or Die Chick – Anna Duggar and Yandy: a case study

Anna Duggar and Yandy Smith don’t have a lot in common other than being cable reality TV personalities. Anna Duggar married into the fundamentalist Christian Duggar family of TLC reality TV show fame. Yandy is known from the VH1 program “Love and Hip Hop New York” . Both were married on TV to men that would end up incarcerated. Other than reality TV Anna and Yandy share the dubious distinction of being ride or die chicks and having it all blow up in their faces the same week.

Anna’s husband Josh was arrested for possession of child pornography two weeks ago. Josh is currently out on bail. Those kind of allegations are always shocking but Josh has been accused of sexual misconduct in the past. When Josh was young he sexually assaulted his younger sisters while they were asleep. Josh did not serve any time for what he did to his sisters. Instead he went through therapy at his church. Josh who grew up in a strict Christian household and he has also been caught on websites for married people seeking to cheat on their spouse.

All of the revelations came out in 2015. At the time Anna and Josh had four children. Anna made the decision to stay in her marriage and remain loyal to her husband. One would think that Josh would change his ways after being exposed in the media and publicly humiliating his wife. Instead he got worse and the allegations became even more dubious. Anna’s forgiveness, loyalty, patience and love didn’t amount to anything.

Yandy and her husband Mendeecees have been featured on “Love and Hip Hope New York” and “Couples Retreat”. Mendeecees was convicted on drug related charges and served four years in prison. His wife Yandy waited for him and supported him faithfully during his incarceration. She also became a prison reform activist.

An episode of “Couples Retreat” recently aired and Mendeecees was asked if he would support Yandy the way she supported him if she was incarcerated. He said he doesn’t know how he would react if the roles were reversed. The man that promised to be by her side through good times and bad admitted on a reality TV show that his vows were not sincere. Again, Yandy’s love and devotion amounted to a hill of beans. Her love is unrequited and unmatched. Yandy wasted her time and energy. She gained absolutely nothing.

I too have been a ride or die chick. About fifteen years ago I dated a man who was in the Army. The relationship happened while American troops were being deployed to Iraq. I thought I was in love with this man and I threw myself into supporting my soldier. I called him sometimes, wrote him and sent him things that he asked for. I watched the news every night and cried in front of the TV when the loss of troops was reported.

One day with tears in my eyes I tried to visualize my suitor sitting in front of the TV crying for me. I couldn’t see it. It didn’t seem feasible. That was the beginning of the end of our relationship. I began to question his feelings and intentions for me. He became dramatic and argumentative. I began to distance myself from him after that and the relationship fizzled out and ended. I wasted my energy, time, emotions and money. My love, care, loyalty, patriotism and devotion to this man amounted to nothing.

I took a long break from dating after that relationship. I remained completely single for about eight years before I took an interest in dating again. In those eight years I learned to make sure that any many I dated proved genuine interest and good intentions to me. I learned to take my time to ensure that a man invested in me. I am not interested in reciprocity. I’m interested in leadership. I don’t want tit for tat. I want a man that chooses me and proves to me that he is worthy to be a loyal husband.

Once I started dating again my circumstances improved. I have a boyfriend now who is clutch and very cute. But aside from that I learned how to get rid of men that weren’t showing me that they were sincere early on. Women need to understand that it doesn’t matter how much she loves a man. It doesn’t amount to anything. It matters how much he loves you.

Don’t be a ride or die chick. No sincere man wants a woman to be a ride or die chick. Only selfish men want that. A man with good intentions wants to be ride or die for her. A man that loves a woman wants her to be as stress and burden free as possible. He wants her to know that she can rely on him is she has struggles. It’s never the other way around.

Pandemic Winter Review: Vikings

Over the winter I started watching the TV show Vikings. Vikings ran on the History Channel from 2013 to 2020 for six seasons. The show is loosely based on the history of the Vikings of northern Europe. I would recommend the show if you like historical dramas. However the show is super violent. The Vikings didn’t really do anything other than invade foreign lands, initiate hand to hand combat and have sex.

The principle character of the show is an ambitious farmer turned Viking king Ragnar Lothbrok and his family. The show spans generations and the show does a good job of developing the characters and their storylines. The make up artists did a great job of maturing and aging the actors.

Michael Hirst is the writer of the show and he said that Vikings is loosely based on history. So I’ve learned some new things but they are general ideas and not necessarily historic facts. Vikings is purely a drama and not educational material. But if you don’t know much about the Vikings this show may inspire you to learn more about them and their influence.

If you don’t mind violent battle scenes and torture you may enjoy Vikings. Some of the seasons are long so the series is kind of a big commitment but it’s a great story with a lot of intricate details and great actors.

Killer Inside: The Mind of Aaron Hernandez – My Review

I watched the three part documentary Killer Inside: The Mind of Aaron Hernandez which is about the late New England Patriots tight end and convicted murderer (well kind of) Aaron Hernandez. Aaron Hernandez is an interesting person to say the least. His story is almost Shakespearean. I remember Aaron Hernandez’s football career very well and I’ve seen several pieces about him in the media before watching the Netflix documentary. But Killer Inside offered some new information.

Family dynamics are interesting and Aaron’s family was full of complicated relationships. Aaron grew up a male dominant household. His father is Puerto Rican and seems to be very traditional. Aaron looked up to his father and was devastated by his death. He had a very close relationship with an older female cousin who loved Aaron like he was her own son. She was a mother of two children dying of cancer and served a prison sentence instead of testifying against Aaron.

The female cousin was married at one time and her husband left her for Aaron’s mother after Aaron’s father died. Aaron had animosity and resentment towards his mother because of her new significant other who sat next to her during Aaron’s trial. Aaron had a male lover who was featured in the documentary. Aaron also had a faithful fiance who was the mother of his daughter. Her support for Aaron never wavered.

I think it’s telling that Aaron allowed his cousin and fiance to suffer for him. He seems to be very self centered and without a conscious. We’ll never know if his sociopathic behavior is the result of nurture, CTE or celebrity privilege. The film implied that Aaron was driven to homicidal madness due to having to hide his same sex attraction while being immersed in the hyper masculine culture of sports.

Aaron was convicted of killing a man named Odin Lloyd in cold blood. Odin Lloyd was his fiancee’s sister’s significant other. Aaron appealed his sentence and later hanged himself while incarcerated and awaiting for the chance to appeal.

A Massachusetts law states that if a person dies while on trial there will be no conviction on the record books. Therefore, Aaron Hernandez is not a convicted murderer. He was also accused of killing two other men in Boston but was not convicted.

Aaron Hernandez was a brain damaged, bisexual, homicidal street thug, a football star who was a part of a sports dynasty with the undying loyalty of two women, a contemptuous relationship with his own mother and a father of a young girl who committed suicide at age twenty seven. His suicide may have outsmarted the Massachusetts legal justice system. Aaron Hernandez was not a sympathetic character but he was nonetheless compelling. Killer Inside: The Mind of Aaron Hernandez was an interesting film even if you already know quite a bit about the man.

Miss Universe 2019: The Also Competed(s)

Congratulations to Zozibini Tunzi of South Africa, the new Miss Universe. I follow a lot of pageant pages on IG and I knew she was a contender the entire time. Miss South Africa looked different from the other contestants. Women in pageants tend to all look alike regardless of race but Zozibini had a look that made her stand out.

I’ve been looking at the media coverage and social media buzz about the new Miss Universe but I cringe at the notion that she isn’t a conventional beauty. She definitely is. She’s tall, slender, feminine, delicate and has a soft but determined spirit. She just styled herself with straightening her hair or wearing prosthetic hair. She bet on herself as a purely natural African woman and won. Good for her.

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But this post is about my favorite contestants that competed but did not win first, second or third place. These are in no particular order.

Miss Zambia

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Miss Zambia showed up late to the Miss Universe pageant and was not able to compete in the pageant. I was watching other contestants go through registrations and she completely missed the process. A fan said on her IG that she had visa and financial problems. But Miss Zambia herself did not confirm or deny that statement. She never gave an explanation as to why she was late.

Her predicament must have been heartbreaking and humiliating but she took it in stride. She decided to stick around and support the other contestants anyway. She seemed very happy to be in Atlanta. I would have privately melted down and my IG would have gone dark. Other fans said that she can compete next year. Miss Zambia didn’t confirm or deny that either. She just continued taking pictures of her vacation. It looks like she had a nice time.

Miss France

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Miss France is another trooper. She fell during the swimsuit competition in the preliminaries. It wasn’t her fault that she fell because she was one of about five contestants that couldn’t stay on their feet on that stage. But Miss France took the tumble like a champ. The way she reacted to the situation endeared her to my heart and I wanted to see her succeed in the pageant. Even before the fall she was one of my favorites. I love red hair and I like her hair cut.

Miss Portugal

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Miss Portugal was in the top twenty of the pageant and I wasn’t aware of her until I saw her interview after the first cut. She has a smile that lights up a room and an effervescent personality. She seems simple and uncomplicated and I love it. She doesn’t come across as “woke” at all and it was refreshing. She’s twenty, sweet and pretty and that was enough to make her a finalist in the Miss Universe contest. That’s how life works and I appreciate her contribution to the pageant. She looked like she was having the time of her life.

Miss Japan

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My impression of Miss Japan is the polar opposite of my impression of Miss Portugal. Miss Japan seems dark and mysterious. There are a lot of pictures of her not smiling on her IG. I don’t think a beauty queen has to be Little Miss Sunshine all the time. She doesn’t have the typical pageant look at all. Miss Japan had the most high fashion look in the entire pageant. I love her long straight hair and blunt bangs. She also looks like she enjoys expensive things and places. I think she’s a great role model for women globally. Take a look at her Instagram.

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Miss Uruguay

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I honestly just like the haircut. I love a good bob and this hairstyle has a lot of volume. My formative years were spent in the 1980s and this is borderline 80s hair. This bob definitely made her stand out. Miss Uruguay has my support.

Miss Haiti

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I can’t put my finger on it but there is something quirky about Miss Haiti. I love quirky Black women. There was a time when quirky Black girls were a presence in popular culture and the world was a better place then. I need to make a blog post about it but I digress. She has a interesting personality, great hair and her Carnivale themed national costume was beautiful. Contestants from the Caribbean usually knock the national costume competition out of the box.

Congratulations to all the young ladies that competed in Miss Universe 2019 particularly Miss South Africa Zozibini Tunzi. They are a diverse group of inspirational women and they are all fantastic.

Jeana Turner: ANTM Cycle 24

Recently Jeana Turner of ANTM Cycle 24 made a video discussing her experience as a contestant on America’s Next Top Model. Her complaints are similar to complaints of reality TV show contestants since Real World I. Jeana says she was edited in a way that portrayed unfairly. She also said that producers created an environment that would create dramatic situations. And like many other ANTM contestants Jeana says the show hurt her career more than it helped.

I watched Jeana’s season and she was portrayed as a villain. She wasn’t my favorite that season but I didn’t dislike her. I just thought that she was competitive, driven and not particularly warm and friendly towards the other girls. I don’t think she owed them that. I respected Jeana during her season.

I’m not particularly sympathetic to Jeana about the way she was portrayed because many reality TV contestants have talked about their experiences once their show is over. It wouldn’t be difficult to research what it is like to be on a reality TV show. Contestants are not held hostage in their living quarters. They have the choice to leave if they find the circumstances to be unbearable.

The intriguing thing about this video isn’t Jeana’s complaints against the producers of ANTM. The most compelling statement in this video comes just before the thirty minute mark. Jeana posed for Playboy when she was eighteen and she says that she felt judged by Tyra for posing nude. She says of Tyra “You say sex sells but how did that work out for my career?”. Young women have been given a bad bill of sale. Women are being groomed from a young age to be used sexually while getting nothing in return.

I do agree with Jeana that Tyra is a hypocrite. I’ve watched her for years and her producers have cast women that have no romantic or sexual history with men and then asks them to pose nude with male models on ANTM. When the model feels uncomfortable or awkward with the male model they are admonished by the judges panel and told they need to sacrifice to give the photographer a good shot.

On her old talk show she had girls on that were sexually active at young ages and she admonished them for that behavior. So where does Tyra really stand? Does she want to encourage casual sex or protect innocence and purity? I think she just wants to sell a TV show. So I’m with Jeana on that point.

Jeana said that she listened to Tyra’s mantra of sex sells. She was having a difficult time establishing a modeling career so when she got an opportunity to be in Playboy she took it. She later regretted it when her idol that gained fame from modeling underwear and bikinis looked down on her for posing nude.

Other than Anna Nicole Smith I’m not sure that posing for Playboy has lead to anyone’s success in high fashion. But Anna Nicole Smith was one of a kind. Jeana was groomed by feminist teachings that taught her that putting her body on display is empowering for women. Jeana listened to Tyra who became a powerful woman in fashion and television by showing skin.

Jeana must not have been completely comfortable with baring it all because she regrets it now. I’ve never heard Pamela Anderson Lee express regret for posing for Playboy and she’s made several appearances in the magazine. But Pamela became a successful actress by making herself a sex symbol. It was a part of her brand and it suited her personality. I don’t think a compromise was made.

But Pamela Anderson Lee was an exception. She was comfortable with posing nude and was around twenty three the first time she posed for Playboy. Jeana was only eighteen. I think the entertainment industry will make an example of women like Pamela Anderson Lee and Anna Nicole Smith as paradigms of what can happen if you push your boundaries and take a chance. There’s that, and Pamela and Anna Nicole were never really taken seriously. They didn’t even take take themselves seriously.

Here is another example of how new aged morality and feminist thinking is not telling women and girls the entire truth about putting your body on display and modesty. There is a cost that goes along with it and most women are not prepared to pay that price.

Jeana was lied to by a culture that celebrates women selling themselves cheaply for the short term pleasure of men in exchange for validation or favors. Women need to understand that they can choose to pose nude if they want but make sure it’s a strategic move that is a part of your brand that will help you meet your goals. If you want to be taken seriously it’s probably better to remain fully clothed.

Women need to stop selling ourselves short. Jeana has a very unique look and is photogenic. She is driven and passionate about her career. She didn’t need Playboy for recognition in high fashion or acting. She already had what she needs for success. Posing nude did more for Playboy readers than it did for her. I think that’s the idea behind the deceptive teachings of feminism and new aged morality .

What do Feminists Want?

I don’t understand feminism. Are they asking for equality or chivalry? You can’t have both. You can not ask the world to ignore all of the differences between men and women and then be asked to be treated with kid gloves because you are a woman. There are two examples of women being asked to be treated with kid gloves in the modern feminist world.

Bella Thorne recently went on a tearful rant against Whoopi Goldberg because Whoopi suggested that she not take nude pictures of herself and store them in a cloud. Bella took nude pictures of herself to send to her boyfriend. Once she discovered that her information had been hacked and the nudes were stolen she decided to release the photo herself. The incident was discussed on “The View” and Whoopi told her to protect herself by not taking nudes.

Bella then takes to Instagram to tell Whoopi that she should be ashamed of herself for telling Bella that there are consequences for actions and she can’t naively do whatever she wants and expect everyone in the world to be honorable. Watch.

Bella’s IG post had a feminist under tone to it. She felt that Whoopi should be ashamed because of how young women will be affected by her comments. Feminism tells women to be bold and adventurous enough to take nude photos to transmit and store electronically but if your security is breached you should make yourself out to be a victim. I would imagine that if you’re bold enough to take nudes in 2019 you’re probably no shrinking violet.

There is always the possibility of the file being stolen from Bella or the boyfriend. And if Bella breaks up with the boyfriend he could share the picture with God knows who. I kind of figured that people that sent nudes in 2019 didn’t really care where the photos ended up. There are dozens and dozens of cautionary tales out there about the consequences of nudes ending up in the wrong hands. Whoopi was just giving Bella some pretty sound advice. Make the man wait until you are together again and when you’re apart he’ll have sweet memories.

I want to start by saying I can’t stand Lavar Ball. I don’t know why we even know who he is because all he is is a stage parent and it doesn’t even seem to me that his boys are setting the NBA on fire. But for some reason the sports media eats him up. I don’t get it. Lavar was being interviewed on ESPN by a sports journalist by the name of Molly Qerim. She said that she wanted to switch gears in the conversation and Lavar said he would switch gears with her any day. Ms. Qerim thought that the comment had sexual undertones. Watch.

Good grief what a prude. I don’t know how someone equates this with sexual harassment. If you’re not familiar with Lavar Ball he’s not shy, he likes the spotlight and he speaks his mind. He probably does have a flirtatious personality but I don’t think that a cutesy flirtatious remark necessarily equals harassment or an unbearable work environment. Is Molly saying that she was afraid for her safety because of that remark? If so she should stay home and be a housewife.

Lavar has been banned from ESPN. I honestly don’t care because he shouldn’t have been on there so much anyway. But I don’t think he should have been banned for this. He should have been banned because he isn’t employed by the NBA and is one of these new kind of celebrities that is famous for absolutely no reason.

I had never heard of Molly Qerim before this but she has undoubtedly been influenced by the Me Too movement. Why else would she be so sensitive to that remark? She was in no danger because she and Lavar were not even in the same room.

Let’s be honest sports fans. Most of those women of the sports shows are ornaments and there is no way that they don’t know that. The women fit a very narrow beauty standard and most of them don’t say much. They are there to look pretty and facilitate conversations between men. They are similar to Price is Right models.

Their presence is sexist and demeaning to women because we all know that there are women that know a lot about sports but they may be bigger than a size 4. My mom could do a good job as an anchor on ESPN because she is pretty darn knowledgeable when it comes to sports and she analyzes games pretty well. But she is seventy three with two artificial hips and a bad back. She’s not eye candy for the mostly male audience which is the true job of women on sports channels.

I want to give an honorable mention to Josina Anderson who is smart as a whip and knows what she is talking about. And the red head that comes on the NBA show isn’t bad either and she’s quite likeable. I think her name is Samantha. And we can’t forget the OG Hannah Storm.

So these women that work on these sports channels benefit from sexism and they don’t mind playing into it for a paycheck but the minute a man that is known to be a smart alek makes a cheeky remark they make a complaint with HR and act as if they have been damaged. It makes no sense to me. Toughen up girls. And if Molly thought Lavar’s remark was disrespectful she should have spoke up for herself in the moment. That seems like the action of an empowered person as opposed to asking someone else to stand up for you because you are such a delicate and meek flower.

Anyway, I just wish feminism would make up it’s mind about it’s identity. Do you want protection and chivalry or are you as tough as any man? You can’t claim both identities and claim to be a coherent adult. Feminists are delusional.

Amendment:

I forgot about the Cuba Gooding Jr. incident. The Cuba Gooding Jr. groping incident is easy to forget about because it was a bunch of nonsense. There is a boring and confusing video which confirms that the allegations of groping were a bunch of nonsense. Watch.

After I watched this video for the first time my initial reaction was “What the heck did I just watch?”, because I didn’t see anything happen other than a bunch of people socializing and flirting at a bar. Cuba put his hand on her knee during the video but I don’t know the nature of their relationship so I don’t know that that was an inappropriate touch. The woman claimed that her breasts were groped but I didn’t see that happen. Perhaps he brushed her chest with his hand but I didn’t see that either.

I could understand how a woman from the Jane Austen era could be very offended and upset if she was transplanted into a happy hour in an urban setting and a man brushed against her breasts even accidentally. Those women had expectations of men and upheld feminine standards. Women could have that kind of society if that’s what they wanted because women set the standards and make the rules. But women have decided that they want to be thought of as independent women that are completely in charge of their bodies and sexuality and can speak up for themselves.

But evidently they can’t. None of the situations in this post are about rape. The Cuba Gooding incident isn’t even about sexual assault because he has been arrested, released with no charges filed. Bella Thorne wasn’t as angry with the person that stole her images as she was Whoopi Goldberg who gave her opinion on a matter that Bella made public. All of these women claimed to be victims after they were simply criticized, made uncomfortable or perhaps a man brushed against her. And now they want people arrested and kicked off TV and such because they felt dishonored.

Oh but wait, I thought that women didn’t want their femininity honored. Obviously they do but there is give and take. A lot of modern women just want to take. That’s what feminists want. I’ve answered my own question.

The Handmaids Tale: Season Two

<<SPOILERS AHEAD>>

I finished watching season two of “The Handmaid’s Tale” last weekend. For the most part I enjoyed it but it was a bit slow moving in parts. In other parts it felt like the writers were writing and adding things to the story line in order to fill up time that was already allotted per episode. And a lot went on in season two.

I read the book and watched seasons one and two so the trials of the handmaids is turning into a blur to me now. It took me a while to get through season two and I had to check it out from the library twice. Binge watching shows is a lot of work but I’ve also been very preoccupied with the NBA Playoffs and Finals. But this is what I recall happening in “The Handmaids Tale: Season Two”, not necessarily in this order. SPOILERS AHEAD!

June is captured, imprisoned and brainwashed after being a fugitive while pregnant. Emily is sent to The Colonies. Janine is sent to The Colonies. Moira works as a surrogant mother while in exile in Canada. A handmaid that had her tongue cut out goes on a suicide bombing mission. She’s successful. Nick gets married in a state sanctioned arranged wedding. Due to the suicide mission there is a shortage of handmaids so Janine and Emily are taken from The Colonies back to the lives of handmaids. Janine is happy to be back.

(The writers did a great job transitioning Janine from the novel to the screen. There wasn’t much to her in the book but she’s a likeable character on the show and she’s tough as nails with a good heart and manages to find the bright side despite her bleak circumstances. The actress does a wonderful job of playing a long suffering woman who has lost her mind but continues to function in her daily life.)

Nick’s marriage is a disaster. His wife Edend finds a new man and the two of them defect from Gilead in the name of love. They get executed. June/Offred goes into false labor. Nick drives Offred/June to an empty house where she is reunited with her daughter and the daughter’s new mother. The visit was arranged by Commander Waterford without Serena’s knowledge. June had several flashbacks of her first pregnancy and the birth of Hannah. Nick gets attacked by guardians and June/Offred is left in the house alone where she gives birth to a girl.

Commander Waterford and Serena Joy look for June in the empty house where she saw Hannah. The couple argues while June listens. Meanwhile June finds a gun in the house and puts the pair in her cross hairs. She doesn’t pull the trigger. The Waterfords leave in frustration because they didn’t find June. The didn’t really look. All they did was scream out her name as they stood in the center of an empty mansion. Nick returns to the house to get June. His attack was a misunderstanding. June could have driven off in a car that looked like a Hot Wheels and headed north to freedom but she couldn’t open the garage door.

June finds Eden’s Bible in the house. Gilead is obsessed with religion but owning a Bible is contraband and reading it is illegal. Serena leads the wives in a petition to their husbands to make Bible available to citizens. She is punished by her husband and has two fingers amputated.

Serena is a founding mother of Gilead but begins to lose faith in the nation only after being mutilated by guardians under her husband’s orders. Oh, and she had the opportunity to escape earlier on in the season but decided to remain loyal to her husband and country. She met an American politician while on a diplomatic trip to Canada that was willing to help her leave Gilead behind. While she was in Canada she was stared at and treated with coldness and disdain by Canadians.

June makes another run for it with her baby in her arms with the aid of Martha’s. They have an Underground Railroad system that guided June through a series of backyards in the neighborhood where she was met by a car that waited for her by the side of a conveniently empty, untraveled city street. She took way too long to get in the car. Emily was in the car too. The escape was planned by Emily’s new commander who is a tough one to figure out. He’s a compelling character that creates some interest in Season Three.

BIG TIME SPOILER ALERT:

Oh yeah, Emily killed Aunt Lydia! It was fast and brutal. That took me all the way out. I was a bit sad. Aunt Lydia is a villain but I felt a bit bad for her when she died and I kind of miss her.

June handed her baby off to Emily who misses her son who is in Canada with his other mother and shuts the door. She’s going back to liberate the handmaids a la Harriet Tubman. And that’s how the season ends. (I enjoy dystopian novels. I’ve noticed everything that happens in all of them has already happened to Black people in America.)

While all of this is going on I’m thinking of more reasons why Gilead would never work and why the plot of this story isn’t feasible. First of all there are way too many men standing around. There are a bunch of men standing around all day and they don’t do anything other than watch women. There is no way that relationships like that of Eden and Isaac wouldn’t be common. Eden and Isaac seemed to have sweet young love so perhaps that would be rare. But there would at least be a lot of hanky panky and drama going on. And the men would literally kill each other or stage their own revolution. That’s usually what happens when men a bunch of men are bored.

The amount of idle people are problematic in this story in other ways. What is the GNP of Gilead? All of their human resources are tied up in enslaving women and there is no money in having babies. A bunch of men are standing around with guns outside. A few men drive people around. A bunch of women are imprisoned in homes and are only let out to go to the store. Who’s making the money? What fuels their economy? Is there a stock market? I’m not sure the currency of Gilead was ever mentioned. I think the only currency is the food stamps the marthas and handmaids use at the store.

The United States military is the most well funded in the history of mankind. This story wants us to believe that a bunch of uptight religious fanatics that dress like Pilgrims overthrew the US government and defeated the American military within three years tops. And if the Gilead army is so powerful why would these men tolerate a government that regulated sex in such a way? It wouldn’t happen. I say three years tops because the young actress that plays Hannah looks the same in “The Before” and the scene where she is reunited with her birthmother and children grow and change fast.

What was stopping all those women in The Colonies from rebelling against the overseers and making a run for it? They had absolutely nothing to lose and the authority figures were far outnumbered.

The most interesting character in season two is young Eden. Eden is a patriotic daughter of Gilead and she is young enough to not remember “From Before”. She believes in the values of Gilead and wants to honor God as a dutiful wife and mother.

The problem here is that her state issued husband is in love with the handmaiden that is pregnant with his baby. Actually that’s not the problem. Even if there was no June/Offred or baby the marriage would still be a mess because Nick isn’t attracted to Eden in the least. It’s as if someone sent a kid to come live in his house without talking to him about it first.

Eden followed her heart to the very end. She never turned away from God or Isaac. She could have lied and spared her life. She could have tried to conceive a child with Nick which would have spared her just as pregnancy spared June. But she remained true to herself to her watery death.

Eden’s death was an honor killing of sorts. Her father snitched on her. Side note, Isaac is a jerk. He had a soft spot for Eden but her life may have had a similar ending regardless. Isaac was brutal.

Season Two was OK. I enjoyed Season One much more because it was more focused. Season Two was doing too much. I’m guessing Season Three will be about June liberating the handmaidens and bringing about the downfall of Gilead. Then the series will end. It kind of needs to end.

NW

Over the weekend I watched a film called “NW”. It is based on a book by the same name by Zadie Smith. NW stands for north west, no it’s not about Kanye West’s daughter. I hope that doesn’t disappoint you. NW refers to the British postal code of north west London where the principle characters of the film grew up together in a housing project. The film circles around two girlhood friends Natalie and Leah who are now in their thirties with families and careers.

I thought this was a great story and a very well made, meticulously cast movie. It kind of reminds me of the 2005 movie “Crash”. “Crash” took place in Los Angeles and had a large cast of ethnically diverse characters with different lots in life. The people in the story seemed to have nothing in common other than living in the megapolis of LA but their lives are all intertwined through a series of events.

“NW” operates in a similar fashion. The characters range in social status and experiences. People that you wouldn’t expect to cross paths do. There are two other characters in the film that grew up in northwest London. And just like in real life it’s interesting to see how people with similar starting points take different paths and end up in very different places in life years later.

“NW” is a story and commentary on race, class, femininity, masculinity, identity and how it all intersects. The mainstreamed, straight laced people make questionable moral decisions and have unrighteous motivations. You will loathe some of the respectable characters for their deceit and arrogance while some of the edgy ones display honesty, decency and even honor and chivalry.

I don’t believe that Hollywood would or could have made this film. I don’t think they would have made the right casting decisions. The casting choices were very important to the telling of the story. I can tell that the actors were chosen deliberately and the film makers did a great job of choosing personnel.

It took a lot of sensitivity and cultural awareness to be able to choose actors and to understand the cultural nuances involved in being Black, mixed an immigrant and White. Kudos to them. I have a hard time picturing Hollywood placing Nikki Amuka-Bird in the role of a trophy wife. But traditional Hollywood would have seen Zoe Kravitz or Zendaya more suitable for the part of a wealthy man’s wife not a woman so…Black. She nailed it though.

O.T. Fagbenle gave a great performance in “NW”. I was reading about the cast after watching it and the article mentioned one of the actors is in “The Handmaid’s Tale”. I was confused because I’ve been watching “Handmaid’s Tale” and I wasn’t making the connection. Fagbenle plays June’s husband Luke in “Handmaid’s Tale” and Felix in “NW”. He is one heck of an actor because his appearance was not drastically different from one part to the other but he was completely unrecognizable to me. He even appeared about ten years younger in “NW” even though the movie aired on BBC in 2016.

There is a lot that can be said about this film but I actually don’t want to spoil it for anyone that hasn’t seen it and may want to watch. It’s a mature and thought provoking movie with no real heroes and no easy answers. I would recommend it if you are looking for something to watch.

Here is a link to the film if you can tolerate sparkly stars framing your movies. Enjoy. I just got a copy from my local library.

Watch “Happy Mother’s Day 1 Kings 3:16-28, Proverbs 4:23” on YouTube

Celebrities are Starting to Look the Same

Celebrities are starting to all look the same to me. I feel like RuPaul and or LaToya Jackson are the standard of beauty that the rest of Hollywood wants to reach.

What do you think?

I actually could have added a few more people to this composite.