American Ideals are George Floyd’s Greatest Asset

American Ideals and the Constitution are George Floyd’s greatest asset. After George Floyd was killed on video and controversy and civil strife ensued stories began to circulate around social media about George Floyd’s past. But in the eyes of the law a person’s past doesn’t matter once they have served their time. The Constitution states that suspects are presumed innocent until they receive a trial by jury.

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Presumed innocence and a trial by jury are rights granted to US Citizens. That’s what George Floyd has going for him. It’s not his strength of character which is questionable to put it mildly. That’s why I find it ironic that so many Black Americans try to disassociate themselves from their Black American identity. A lot of the men that have been victims in high profile police misconduct cases only have the rights granted to them by citizenship to fall back on. Because most of them have been less than model citizens.

If you disregard the Constitution and what America is supposed to stand for. If you disregard civility and the service that police are suppose to provide. If you disregard the Christianity that most Christians claim to observe. It can be said that George Floyd met up with karma.

He was found guilty of aggravated robbery with a deadly weapon. He and five other men broke into a pregnant woman’s home and held her at gunpoint. George Floyd served five years in prison for that crime. He also had brushes with the law involving drugs. And he had several children within relationships with different women.

However, if you believe in what this country is supposed to stand for then there is no valid argument to defend the police officers that killed George Floyd. Police officers are supposed to defend the Constitution. They are not henchmen or street executioners. Suspects are entitled to their day in court and a trial.

The rights given to American citizens by the Constitution are what the fight against police brutality is about. And Black Americans need to understand that Constitutional rights are what give all of us a defense. A case can be made against anyone’s character and righteousness is subjective.

Americans Are Not Mature Enough for a Conversation About Race

“We need to have a conversation about race” has become a common cliche in this country in regards to race relations. This phrase is commonly heard when listening to talking heads discuss current events surrounding race in America. America has shown me that a conversation about race is a complete waste of time and energy.

Anyone with an objective point of view understands that White supremacy and racism is a one way street. Black Americans have done all they can to live in this country peacefully yet we are constantly condescended, vilified and degraded. That’s the real reason that people want to have “conversations on race”. They use it as an opportunity to tell Black people what they really think under the guise of peacemaking. Black people continue to try and make peace and compromise in order to go along to get along and be accepted.

Black Americans need to talk to each other about how to improve their lives in America and other voices need to be ignored. Black people need to have a more positive inner dialogue. When non Black people defend their opinion in regards to race it is usually an unflattering opinion of Black people. As far as I’m concerned they are welcome to it. They are also welcome to stay out of my space.

Positive interactions with non Black people are possible but if you need to sit down with them and conversation about racist opinions they probably are not worth the trouble. I have not interest in talking someone out of their racism. As long as the are not affecting my life they are they are welcome to it.

I have no interest in helping anyone understand my point of view nor am I interested in coming to a understanding as far as race. What is hard to understand about me wanting to be valued as a human being and a woman. I don’t think I benefit from a conversation with that starting point.

If America wants to have a conversation on race it needs to apologize to descendants of African slaves and vow to do better. So far America continues to make excuses and be self righteous. The concerns and complaints of Black people are not heard. I choose not to participate in conversations where the other party refuses to listen because of perceived superiority.

Painful conversations require maturity and America does not have it. There is no real desire to do better because racism works out well for most Americans. The majority of Americans have shown Black people for centuries that they are not interested in justice or opening their minds to new ways of thinking that don’t center White comfort.

Even in this age of BLM most Americans continue to minimize the extent and affect of racism. There have been protests, riots and conversations on race yet racism prevails. Black people need to pay attention to the deliberate attempts to drown our voices in disingenuous conversations. America will never be without racism. The best Black Americans can do is to use the opportunities made possible by those that came before us and improve ourselves, our families and our communities. Do better on your own. Don’t wait for anyone else to do better.

Men Need to Stand for Integrity

Why are so many children in America’s cities dying? I’m specifically talking about children in the inner city that are killed by gunfire. Children are being shot at baby showers, in their living rooms while watching TV, at church cookouts, in the back seats of cars and in their sleep at home in bed. It’s because they are surrounded by men that lack integrity and don’t value Black children and families.

I’ve seen numerous online arguments where men’s common response to criticism is that women do it too. Not in this case. Inner city killings are almost always committed by men. So boys and men in America’s big cities are the focus of this post.

https://www.ksdk.com/article/news/crime/50-children-shot-st-louis-2020/63-b7e2b248-5322-4946-9706-904825daddb1

Over the last ten years it has become common for children including toddlers and infants to be killed by gunfire. What’s going on? Why is this happening? Concern for others would dictate that you don’t shoot into a house not knowing who is inside. A reasonable person would understand that that kind of carelessness will lead to harm. And it just seems like a waste of time, effort and ammo to fire a gun in order to settle a score and not be certain that the person you want to shoot is in the cross hairs. It’s as if there are men that simply want to incite terror.

in·teg·ri·ty/inˈteɡrədē/ Learn to pronounce nounnoun: integrity

  1. 1. the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles; moral uprightness

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A generation of boys has been raised to be primarily concerned for themselves and to only care about their own survival. They are taught that they are valuable by people that have low expectations for them. These boys are pandered to and treated as if they are pets. Meanwhile they aren’t taught proper boundaries.

It’s a recipe for disaster and we are seeing it play out on the evening news almost daily. There is also a lack of respect for Black womanhood. Any culture or organization that does not respect women and value healthy relationships with women is going to have problems and abuse.

I believe that there are predatory gangs that dominate the streets of America. They take advantage of young men and make them subservient. They demand loyalty as if they are a cult. Predatory gangs strip children from broken homes of their humanity and moral compass in order to use them as tools for chaos. The chaos is a screen for their inadequacies.

Without boundaries, integrity, responsibility or care for others we have communities where babies are becoming collateral damage of street battles between men. Black American children are dying in strollers and car seats before they have the opportunity to start kindergarten. It’s tragic and things are progressively getting worse.

There are several factors to inner city gun violence but I believe in controlling what one can control. Citizens can not regulate gun availability and factors such as unemployment, underemployment and racism. But we need men to lead boys to become productive men and set boundaries of decency. Men need to teach their sons, young cousins and nephews integrity. They also need to recognize it if they don’t have it themselves and develop a stronger character.

Conflicts, armed or otherwise need to stay between men and the conflicts should be dealt with in an honorable fashion. By honorable I mean deal with disagreements and offenses face to face. Men need to try talking or even fist fighting. I’m not unrealistic and I understand that violence occurs from time to time.

There is no reason to involve innocent people particularly children in their rivalries. The behavior that we are seeing on the evening news is that of cold blooded sociopaths. Men in the community need to take a stand against it or it will continue and all efforts to improve the Black community will be futile.

Men that live in the big cities of America need to stand for integrity and set proper boundaries within their own neighborhoods. Cowardly behavior like drive by shootings and groups of men jumping one men need to end. Blaming women for everything needs to stop. If men want to be respected as leaders the buck needs to stop with them and they need to hold themselves accountable for the death and destruction in inner city neighborhoods across America.

That’s where true change will start. Men need to stop the senseless violence that robs children of their chance at life and makes communities unlivable. Men need to take a stand for their families and communities. No one else can do that for them.

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Why I Don’t Completely Support BLM

What’s wrong is wrong. George Floyd’s murder was wrong. Breonna Taylor’s murder is wrong. There are countless other acts of law enforcement that I think are wrong. It’s obvious to me that there is a bias against Black people by law enforcement and the criminal justice system. I do not believe that a government entity should hold the power that police officers and police unions hold. But I still don’t completely support Black Lives Matter.

Black Lives Matter is a Transgender Rights Organization

https://blacklivesmatter.com/what-we-believe/

BLM is an organization that promotes gender neutrality. Part of their mission statement is to tear down what they call cis gender privilege and promote Black trans women. I’m not a feminist and I believe that gender roles create healthy boundaries that protect women and girls. I believe that women benefit from a patriarchal society that respects women and femininity.

I don’t agree with gender non conforming politics. Gender non conforming beliefs diminish respect for women. I think that blurring the line between male and female is a way to further break down an individual’s identity so they can be controlled, used and taken advantage of in some way.

Black American women have never been offered the type of chivalry that other women have. We’ve often been labeled as masculine and have been treated as such. I think the results of this are more single parent Black households, more Black women being killed and beaten by their partners, Black women dying in childbirth and higher infant mortality. Excepting the belief that people with men’s bodies are women would be a further detriment to Black womanhood.

I support a man expressing himself in a feminine way or presenting himself as a woman. I respect a mature individual’s choice to have gender reassignment surgery. But I believe that womanhood is more than how a person identifies. If society adopts the idea that gender is a matter of identity women will suffer for it socially, mentally and physically. That is especially true for Black women.

The Work of Black Advancement Needs to be Centered in the Black Community

A common phrase in the media is that Americans need to have conversations about race. No we don’t. The US has made itself clear that it does not value equality and fairness for Black Americans. America has made it very clear that White supremacy is a priority. Black people should not waste their energy appealing to the majority in this nation for fairness. Black Americans need to use their resources and opportunities to create stability for themselves, build healthy Black families and thriving Black communities.

If Black Americans had more working class, middle class and affluent Black communities they would have a local government and police force that answers to them. Black Americans need to build communities where they can sit on a park bench without harassment or go jogging without suspicion. Most Black Americans strive to leave Black communities and join White ones once they reach a level of affluence.

Many Black communities are poor and rife with problems. Those outside of the community come into Black neighborhoods in order to exploit whatever resources are there. There isn’t a strong infrastructure in Black communities and the infrastructure that is there was not created by Black people. It’s usually created by the government and small business owners that do not respect or like Black people.

The next phase of Black civil rights needs to be Black independence and pride. We need to become more financially independent and improve our health, spiritual wellness and interpersonal relationships. More attention needs to be paid to building Black families and communities and creating a Black infrastructure so we are not dependent on those that simply seek to exploit Black people.

I don’t think our current complaints within the US will be solved by marches or demonstrations. The solution to the problem is to have areas where the Black community and tax base runs the police force, public schools and owns most if not all of the local businesses. Black Americans have the resources to do this but the will and vision is what’s missing.

BLM Does Not Support Traditional Families

America has sought to destroy Black families throughout most of it’s history. The Black family has been undermined in the media. However, most Black children grew up in a home with their mom and dad until the drug wars of the 1980s. Drug trafficking brought about mass incarceration of Black men and street violence which made Black communities unlivable, not a good places to invest and killed many more Black men.

Many Black men were not available to become husbands and fathers. Part of the culture shifted from a family and faith based culture to a street culture that didn’t value traditional families and legacies through children. Without traditional Black families there is no future for Black people in America.

The next revolution needs to be a quiet one that focuses on nurturing Black children and giving them the necessary tools to become successful adults in American society. I’m forty five years old and I’ve never married or had children. The traditional Black family isn’t my cause at this point in my life. But I won’t support any organization or philosophy that subverts Black families.

A Lot of the BLM Protests Look Silly

Some of the protesters look silly. I’ve seen women in the streets wearing tube tops and booty shorts. That doesn’t seem practical if you are going into an environment where a disturbance may break out. There is a viral video of a protester twerking in the street in front of a line of police cars. In a different viral video a woman performed stripper moves in front of a different police force in protest.

People are in the streets playing drums and dancing with bare feet. Keep in mind protests have turned violent. I saw a video of protesters doing yoga in the street. A young man yelled tearfully to the police for fairness at one demonstration. I’ve seen more than one young protester hug police officers. Young children are marching.

In other words a lot of the protesters are not acting like they want to be taken seriously. They are not acting like they have a list of concerns that they want heard or a list of demands to be met. The demonstrators are very emotional and don’t appear to be very organized.

I agree that Black live matter. Government agents should not be given the power to execute and torture citizens on the street. But police forces do not seem to be interested in changing their policies in the interest of civil rights and earning the trust of the Black community. I am not going to beg and plead for anyone else to see that my life as a Black woman matters. I will never degrade myself by asking for my life to be validated by mainstream American society which is what I think that BLM is doing.

Begging for acceptance in a country that your family has been in for centuries is undignified. Black empowerment and independence is going to come from Black individuals, families and communities. The real revolution needs to be a quiet one.

Black Americans are no longer enslaved or limited by segregation. The next step in our evolution as Americans needs to be using our resources which includes human resources to build prosperity for ourselves, those near us and the future. That’s the only kind of transformation I’m interested in at this point in history. The changes that I want to see won’t trend on Twitter or be on the evening news. There is no need for me to take to the streets for true and long lasting change.

Black on the Fourth of July: 2020

Fourth of July weekend 2020 has come and gone. It was a very somber day for me this year. Generally I don’t do a lot for holidays but they usually put me in a good mood. This year Fourth of July was depressing. Independence DAy was melancholy due to the state of America and the uncertainty of our future. Our nation’s leadership is corrupt, there is economic uncertainty, a plague is filling hospital emergency rooms to capacity and racial tensions has emotions on edge.

This Fourth of July, like in past years many Black people made social media posts letting the world know that they have no plans to observe the holiday due to past and present racial oppression. That’s their choice and I appreciate and understand their opinions but I see things differently. I’m a proud Black American and I’m proud of our history in this country.

I have two Black parents and four Black grandparents. I studied my family tree on both sides and I can document that we’ve been in this country for at least four generations. My identity is not tied to any other race or country. I’m Black American and completely comfortable with that and I take pride in my place in human history.

I have no desire to think of myself as a Moor, or a Hebrew Israelite nor do I believe that Black people are indigenous to North America. All of those are theories that Black people that want to disassociate themselves from the history of Africans in America share on You Tube. I believe that those people are ashamed of their heritage and envy White people.

I am one generation removed from a southern sharecropping family. My mother is one of nine children from rural Arkansas. She grew up in poverty and began working as a young child picking cotton with her family. They were paid for their labor by the pound. The cotton they picked was weighed and they were paid mere cents by the pound.

My mom left Arkansas after high school moved to Detroit, Michigan got a job at the phone company and married my dad who was an auto worker from Detroit. His parents were from Mississippi. The too left the agricultural South for the Industrial North for greater opportunities and freedom.

My folks divorced when I was young but I had a happy childhood where my needs and many of my wants were met. I went to college after high school graduated and later on earned two more degrees. After many years I got my foot in the door of the career I wanted. Both of my parents are enjoying retirement.

My family’s story is one of hard work and achievement. I’m proud of it. I’m glad to be an American. A high price was paid for me to have a stake in this country and I’m grateful to everyone that came before me that gave me the opportunities that I have today as a Black woman in America.

America has the biggest economy in the world and to be born here is a blessing. There is always an opportunity to make money in America. It may not be a lot and life is hard everywhere but survival is not precarious here as it is in other nations.

I’m a working class woman but I have a nice car, diamond rings, designer purses, a closet full of clothes and shoes and a full refrigerator. I’ve been on great vacations and have dined in hip restaurants. Life is pretty good and I won’t complain.

America has a fascinating history and is a beautiful country. There is a lot to do, see and experience. Many think it’s unhealthy but I enjoy the go getter culture. I also enjoy America’s materialistic, flashy nature. It’s what makes our economy great.

But America is far from perfect. There are glaring injustices. Overall this is indeed a racist, White supremacist country. I’ve been overlooked for opportunities and discriminated against because of my race. The saying that Black people have to work twice as hard to get half as far is true and I’ve been in the American workforce long enough that I’ve seen that principle in action.

I’m a tax paying, law abiding, citizen but I do not see police as friends or protectors. I prefer to keep them as far away from me as possible because an interaction with them could be unpredictable. I could end up hurt or dead. A simple misunderstanding can be fatal for Black people and their actions would most likely be excused by other Americans and the court system.

But I believe that Black Americans need to stand up for what is right in this country like we have done historically. We need to continue to hold the United States to its promise of liberty and justice for all. We need to continue to support the Constitution and Bill of Rights as citizens that have a right to pursue happiness. Our ancestor pour blood, sweat and tears into this country. Stand up for what is yours and remember that no one has given us anything. This is my country too.

America’s has a lot of great things going for it. But we have a lot of work to do in order to create a more perfect union to be enjoyed by all. I’m not going to give up on what America could be because of what it currently is and was.