The Amber Guyger story was a farce from the time it broke in the news until Amber Guyger was sentenced earlier this month. There was so much about this saga that didn’t make sense and like Judge Judy says, “If it doesn’t make sense it isn’t true”. Anyone that is in touch with reality and has any media savvy at all should know that Amber Guyger’s tale is pure fiction and we will never know the truth. It’s a complete scam.
Amber walked into the apartment of Botham Jean and shot and killed him while he was relaxing. Her excuse is that she was exhausted after a long day of work and she walked into the wrong apartment that just so happened to have the door cracked. First of all, I have worked many long days in my life. I’ve always been able to make my way home. And what are the chances that Amber went to the wrong apartment and she went into the one with the door cracked. I’m just not buying it.
Personally I wouldn’t walk into my home if the door was cracked. Surely a trained police officer should be able to handle such a situation. Why didn’t she call one of her buddies to come help her? I think that a cracked door would at least make me more aware of my surroundings. Turning on a light and yelling out may have helped.
Poor Amber worked her fingers to the bone until she was too incoherent to find her apartment and question why the door was open but she was able to shoot straight in the dark in order to kill a man with one shot. This girl has some skills. Her prison nick name should be Annie Oakley.
It took a few days for Amber to get arrested. I think that those days in between killing a man and being arrested were the days in which she and her law enforcement buddies came up with this excuse. Then she was encouraged to carry herself in a demure manner even though we know she’s cocky, grow her hair longer and wear conservative but form fitting clothing. I’ll give the woman credit for having a nice figure. It came in handy.
Let’s skip to the jury. In past high profile trials jurors remain out of the public eye for a long time and sometimes they never make a public statement. In this case two of the jurors made appearances shortly after the sentence was announced on TV and explained their decision to sentence Amber to only ten years.
A Black woman and a White man had the nerve to say that Botham Jean was a good forgiving man and wouldn’t be vengeful. It makes more sense to give a lengthy sentence to a murderer that killed a sweet person. But this isn’t about making sense or justice this is about affirming Whiteness and it’s supposed moral superiority.
We will never know if Botham Jean would have wanted Amber to be forgiven. I find it difficult to believe that anyone would have a grain of sympathy for someone that would treat them with such carelessness and recklessness. Amber claims to have defended herself with no regard for others. Even if you believe Amber’s story that this was an honest mistake she still isn’t the person that deserves sympathy and tears.
The family of Botham Jean played into a trope, perhaps unintentionally but I think they were threatened or bought off, which is becoming quite common in the media. The trope of the benevolent spiritual Negro that loves others (Whites) more than he or she loves themselves. It’s becoming nauseating.
I don’t understand the purpose of all these stories about a Black waitress cutting up the food of an elderly White customer, a Black boy shielding an elderly White woman that he doesn’t know with his jacket in the rain, a Black woman that allows her wedding photo shoot to be interrupted by a little White girl that thinks she is a Disney princess in her wedding dress or a Black cheerleader that jumps off her homecoming float during a parade to save a White toddler from something that his parents should have handled. I guess they are supposed to be feel good stories. But I don’t feel validated by this as a Black woman and I think White people are positioned as the superior party.
These stories are not newsworthy and the service and heroism is always a one way street. The person that is always laboring, sacrificing their comfort or their moment of glory is always a Black person. Yes, there are equally nauseating stories about White people helping poor, unfortunate, shiftless Blacks that are down on their luck. But those often end up being Go Fund me scams designed by the White savior.
The real contrast to the benevolent Negro stories are the numerous stories of reckless behavior that endangers Black lives. This recklessness is consistently defended or overlooked by the American public. Because White people and their sense of safety and comfort is paramount to all else in America. Black people are supposed to buy into this too at their own expense.
Botham Jean’s family unfairly lost a loved one in the prime of his life and they chose to defend and sympathize with his killer and not their son or brother. I believe in forgiveness but forgiveness is not for a person that has wrongs others. Wrongdoers are owed nothing and there is no need for reconciliation.
I think it’s suspicious that the hug between Amber and Botham’s younger brother is the image that was presented to the public by numerous media outlets along with a message of forgiveness. I didn’t watch the trial but I don’t recall Amber admitting that her actions were inappropriate or asking for forgiveness. I only read about her making excuses for killing an innocent man and then trying to gain sympathy from the public and mercy from the jury.
Amber is a moderately attractive White woman and the world is use to presenting people like her as virtuous. The Jeans, particularly the men seem to agree with her. The dad even said he want to be her friend. Of all the emotions and thoughts this family must have towards Botham’s tragic end I don’t understand why their thoughts about Amber are what made headlines.
We didn’t hear much about their grieving process or their relationship to their family member. Their statements were centered around Amber.Every time I’ve had to exercise forgiveness it was a private matter. The person that I felt that betrayed me wasn’t even a part of the process. My heart, spirit and quality of life were at the center of forgiving someone that mistreated me. They had nothing to do with what goes on in my heart and I have no desire to interact with them again. In my experience that how forgiveness goes. There usually isn’t a face to face reconciliation and hug. That only happens on sit coms, rom coms and TV talk shows.
Brandt Jean begged to hug Amber and said he didn’t think she deserved to go to jail. He laid it on pretty thick before the audience. The judge who I believe was coerced or simply incompetent granted permission for him to hug her. They ran and hugged like two lovers being reunited. I think this was all planned and choreographed. We’ve all seen videos of grief stricken families attacking their loved ones killer in court.
Botham Jean’s brother could have taken that opportunity to strangle Amber and the rest of the family could have cleared the bench and jumped her. I’m surprised the judge didn’t think of that. If I was a judge that wanted to maintain an orderly court room as opposed to a circus there wouldn’t be any hugging at all. But I think Tammy Kemp is a phony and a puppet. I don’t think she has any real control over her court room and I hope voters get rid of her at their first opportunity.
I don’t think a judge with integrity would hug a convicted killer and give her a gift in front of the victim’s family. I also think it’s a bit too perfect that the judge and the bailiff that comforted Ms. Guyer were both Black women. How many Black women do you think work in the Dallas justice system? I’m sure it’s a minority.
And my goodness Tammy looked homely! The woman wore gold bedazzled flip flops before when she knew she was being watched by the entire nation. But she was sure to get herself styled to go on TV and cry and make excuses for her tomfoolery.
Now let’s talk about the key witness to the case and Botham Jean’s neighbor that overheard the turmoil that fateful night Joshua Brown. He’s dead now. He was killed in a drive by shooting. Those usually take months to solve and sometimes they are never resolved. But the Dallas PD was able to make an arrest in this case remarkable fast.
Joshua Brown was supposedly killed in a drug deal gone bad. I thought he was in the Airbnb business. Did Mr. Brown have a criminal history? Usually the media uncovers those types of things right away. Amber’s defense could have used that to discredit him but I don’t think that happened.
The drug dealers that allegedly shot Joshua were from Louisiana and traveled to Dallas for this business meeting. Louisiana ran out of weed I suppose. And I guess we’re expected to believe that Mr. Brown set up a drug deal in the parking lot of his own apartment building. I’m not in the drug dealing business but I don’t think that’s how it’s done.
The entire Amber Guyger story is a farce and a scam. We will never know the truth. The way all of this played out in the media is absolutely, literally unbelievable. It was all a show from the Dallas PD PR machine to try and satisfy Black people with the bare minimum while centering itself around White feelings.
There are a lot of scams involved in dating these days. Before you can look for love you need to be sure that they’re not simply looking to use you. I’ve noticed a dating trend over the last few years. I’m going to call it the bait and switch date and here’s how it works.
Let’s say a man and woman take interest in each other so they make a date. It’s Wednesday and they plan a day at a park for Sunday afternoon. As it gets close to time for the date the man finds a reason to modify the plans. He will come up with an excuse as to why the date that was planned won’t work on Sunday morning.
He may give excuses like:
- It’s going to be a bit cool. (The seven day forecast told us that. Wear a jacket.)
- He has hay fever. (Didn’t he know that before?)
- He wants to see you but he has to do something later that night so he will be pressed for time. He doesn’t want to be rushed. (When did that come up? Why did you even make this plan with me if you had something to do later?)
As far as you’re concerned the plans can be canceled and we can see each other a different day. We can do something all together different if a firm plan is put into place. But he says that he wants to see you today. (Awww) You’ve taken the bait. You’ve already agreed to spend time with him and reserved a block of time for him.
He had no desire or probably intention to ever go to the park. His wheels have been turning for the last few days to see how an afternoon in the park can end up with time alone so he can try and have sex with you. He may also have made a suggestion that he thought you would like to butter you up. An idea of a pleasant afternoon may be enough to get you on the hook.
Here’s the switch. So now he suggests that the two of you meet up for drinks or a bite to eat at a bar or cafe near his house instead of going to the park and the two of you can talk and see where the afternoon goes.
Don’t trust men when they say “Let’s see where it goes”. Don’t trust them ever. Just don’t. Hit the eject button. Flakiness in men is usually a smoke bomb which creates a confusing gray area for them to exploit and people can be hurt that way to varying degrees.
In my opinion it would be a lot more respectful and mature if a man said, “Hey, I’m interested in casual sex this afternoon. Are you up for it? I have no interest in a long term commitment from you but you are kind of sexy.” The woman is then empowered to say yes or no. She can even open the conversation up to terms, conditions and negotiations.
But they don’t want to negotiate and put everything out on the table because they don’t want women to be empowered in that way. The US workforce works the same way. There’s a reason union labor has dwindled. Negotiations empowered marginalized workers. The workers got a chance to have their voices heard and companies were bound to an agreement. Large companies didn’t like that so they undermined union labor. The sexual revolution and feminism undermined and eroded women’s bargaining power. Men are no longer bound to anything but their own needs.
The world is run by men. They know how to make decisions, speak their mind and come to compromises. That’s why I look for leadership in men when it comes to personal relationships. To me leadership involves being able to make a firm decision and having the ability to make plans. Waffling back and forth is not attractive. I’ve learned that when men are being flaky and vague it’s not confusion it’s deception. He is pulling a bait and switch.
I don’t know if these memes are jokes or if they are serious. Nonetheless, it is sad to me that they exist at all.
It seems that modern culture is telling women that they need to prove loyalty to men that are not their husbands or even boyfriends. In return for their loyalty I’m assuming these women get to marry a person that is self centered, manipulative, fake and generally not very nice. What joy!
Men don’t seem to be offering the same kind of loyalty in return, at least not right away. I guess they commit after they’ve exhausted all other options and they’ve wasted a lot of a woman’s time and energy. In other words they capitulate because they’ve wasted their time and now they’re probably not desirable to other women.
These relationships are based on desperation, limited options and limited understanding of a man’s role and a woman’s worth. I’m going to give a few examples of those living under simlar circumstances, demanded loyalty with little to nothing given in return:
Citizens of North Korea
The citizens of North Korea are required to be loyal to it’s leaders. In return for that loyalty the government doesn’t brutally punish and or execute them. Their loyalty isn’t really love of country as much as it is fear of being sent to a work camp, tortured and killed.
Loyalty is demanded of slaves. Without loyalty there would be rebellion. The empowered person would lose complete control. All would be lost. Their sense of importance and probably money would be lost. Loyalty is maintained through violence and psychological bondage.
Dogs are loyal. They don’t ask for much or have very high expectations. All they want is a pat on the head and a bowl of kibble. They’re loyalty comes very cheap. They simply want validation.
Moms are great. I love moms. If you ask most people who has always been loyal to them most would say their mom. Moms are loyal to human beings that are essentially useless in the beginning. But moms have high hopes. Babies are cute but they are a lot of work. Young children are exhausting.
Babies are just balls of potential. This type of loyalty is valiant in a mother but it is foolish from women in pseudo romantic relationships.
Men are supposed to show leadership in relationships and if they don’t do that they are not living up to their potential. Once a relationship is established loyalty is a two way street. Two people need to commit to each other and set boundaries for a relationship. No woman wants to be in a relationship where she feels like she is a citizen of a dictatorship, slave, pet or a man’s mother. There is no way true romance can blossom under those conditions. If a man is demanding loyalty without giving it or offering a future you are headed for a fake relationship devised to take advantage of you.
Recently Jeana Turner of ANTM Cycle 24 made a video discussing her experience as a contestant on America’s Next Top Model. Her complaints are similar to complaints of reality TV show contestants since Real World I. Jeana says she was edited in a way that portrayed unfairly. She also said that producers created an environment that would create dramatic situations. And like many other ANTM contestants Jeana says the show hurt her career more than it helped.
I watched Jeana’s season and she was portrayed as a villain. She wasn’t my favorite that season but I didn’t dislike her. I just thought that she was competitive, driven and not particularly warm and friendly towards the other girls. I don’t think she owed them that. I respected Jeana during her season.
I’m not particularly sympathetic to Jeana about the way she was portrayed because many reality TV contestants have talked about their experiences once their show is over. It wouldn’t be difficult to research what it is like to be on a reality TV show. Contestants are not held hostage in their living quarters. They have the choice to leave if they find the circumstances to be unbearable.
The intriguing thing about this video isn’t Jeana’s complaints against the producers of ANTM. The most compelling statement in this video comes just before the thirty minute mark. Jeana posed for Playboy when she was eighteen and she says that she felt judged by Tyra for posing nude. She says of Tyra “You say sex sells but how did that work out for my career?”. Young women have been given a bad bill of sale. Women are being groomed from a young age to be used sexually while getting nothing in return.
I do agree with Jeana that Tyra is a hypocrite. I’ve watched her for years and her producers have cast women that have no romantic or sexual history with men and then asks them to pose nude with male models on ANTM. When the model feels uncomfortable or awkward with the male model they are admonished by the judges panel and told they need to sacrifice to give the photographer a good shot.
On her old talk show she had girls on that were sexually active at young ages and she admonished them for that behavior. So where does Tyra really stand? Does she want to encourage casual sex or protect innocence and purity? I think she just wants to sell a TV show. So I’m with Jeana on that point.
Jeana said that she listened to Tyra’s mantra of sex sells. She was having a difficult time establishing a modeling career so when she got an opportunity to be in Playboy she took it. She later regretted it when her idol that gained fame from modeling underwear and bikinis looked down on her for posing nude.
Other than Anna Nicole Smith I’m not sure that posing for Playboy has lead to anyone’s success in high fashion. But Anna Nicole Smith was one of a kind. Jeana was groomed by feminist teachings that taught her that putting her body on display is empowering for women. Jeana listened to Tyra who became a powerful woman in fashion and television by showing skin.
Jeana must not have been completely comfortable with baring it all because she regrets it now. I’ve never heard Pamela Anderson Lee express regret for posing for Playboy and she’s made several appearances in the magazine. But Pamela became a successful actress by making herself a sex symbol. It was a part of her brand and it suited her personality. I don’t think a compromise was made.
But Pamela Anderson Lee was an exception. She was comfortable with posing nude and was around twenty three the first time she posed for Playboy. Jeana was only eighteen. I think the entertainment industry will make an example of women like Pamela Anderson Lee and Anna Nicole Smith as paradigms of what can happen if you push your boundaries and take a chance. There’s that, and Pamela and Anna Nicole were never really taken seriously. They didn’t even take take themselves seriously.
Here is another example of how new aged morality and feminist thinking is not telling women and girls the entire truth about putting your body on display and modesty. There is a cost that goes along with it and most women are not prepared to pay that price.
Jeana was lied to by a culture that celebrates women selling themselves cheaply for the short term pleasure of men in exchange for validation or favors. Women need to understand that they can choose to pose nude if they want but make sure it’s a strategic move that is a part of your brand that will help you meet your goals. If you want to be taken seriously it’s probably better to remain fully clothed.
Women need to stop selling ourselves short. Jeana has a very unique look and is photogenic. She is driven and passionate about her career. She didn’t need Playboy for recognition in high fashion or acting. She already had what she needs for success. Posing nude did more for Playboy readers than it did for her. I think that’s the idea behind the deceptive teachings of feminism and new aged morality .