My Analysis of “Catching Kelce””

I know I’m way late. But I was a bit busy. In fact I didn’t even see the finale of “Catching Kelce” at the time it aired a few weeks ago. I had to have my mom DVR it for me and I watched it several days later. For those of you that don’t know, “Catching Kelce” was a dating show patterned after the “Bachelor” where Kansas City Chiefs tight end looked for love from a group of fifty starry eyed NFL wife hopefuls. I thought about trying out for the show myself but I am far too old. Yes, I looked into it.

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I’ll skip right to the end. He picked a young woman from Kentucky named Maya Benberry. I was glad that he picked Maya because she is Black or at least mixed or something. I always cheer on Black people regardless of the contest. It could be the Olympics, a pageant, pro sports, political election or game shows. Before you label me a racist keep in mind that Black women are the least likely demographic to get married. And if you’ve ever watched “The Bachelor” you know that the Black women rarely even make the qualifying round. I’m a Black woman so I support Black people especially women. And regardless of race, if I was a betting woman I would always put my money on the long shot. Black girls are the long shot in everything.

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So I’m really glad to see a handsome prosperous bachelor choosing a Black woman but I kind of wish he hadn’t picked that one. Maya was actually one of my least favorite people on the show and even from the field of Black women on the show I think he could have chosen better. I hope Travis is happy because I love him but I just don’t see it. But hind sight is 20/20 and I think she was his favorite from the start. The heart wants what the heart wants I suppose.

My favorite contestant on “Catching Kelce” was Cee Cee from Michigan. I thought she was super cute with a bubbly personality. She was light hearted, funny and didn’t seem to take the show too seriously. But I will say that the idea of Cee Cee and Travis operating as a couple gave me pause. If you are familiar with Travis you know that a pairing between him and a somewhat vapid party girl that enjoys drinking whose friends refer to her as “the Reckless One” may not be the best help mate from an athlete that was once described as having character flaws. Nonetheless Cee Cee was the greatest and I wish her well in life.

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I was also fond of Avery. I saw a lot of myself in her. Avery has a reserved personality and was a bit mysterious. I think that Avery is an old fashioned woman that expects a man to earn her love, attention and affection even if you are an NFL star. She didn’t compete heavily with the other women for Travis nor did she dangle her body in front of him like Christmas ornament. I can tell that Avery wants to take her time in order to get to know a man.

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People these days like instant validation. They don’t want to take the time to search a person’s mind and heart. The focus is usually sexual gratification, personal validation or ownership. That’s why romance is rare in these modern times. I don’t believe you can ever really fall in love with a person without learning their mind, heart and soul. Intimacy takes time but most don’t want to invest the time. Even Travis said that Avery was a lot of work because of her somewhat aloof personality. But maybe he was right. She might just not been that into him.

The two girls left standing at the finale in Kansas City were Maya and Veronica. They were two of the most competitive and assertive women on the show. They also both have huge boobs. The lovely blonde Veronica from New Jersey was the runner up. I liked Veronica. She seemed like fun and I think she would have been a good pick for Travis. I’m not concerned for her in the least. I’ll bet she ends up marrying one of the Philadelphia Eagles. She would probably like that better anyway.

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Anyway, congratulations to Travis and Maya. I hope the two of them get married and turn the wedding into an E! channel special. I will be sure to tune in. But if it doesn’t work out I hope that there will be a “Catching Kelce II”. I know how difficult it can be to date in Kansas City. I understand Travis. So if there is a “Catching Kelce II” I hope they relax the age restrictions.

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The Trouble with Modern Dating

One of the many problems that I’ve found with dating in this age is that people forget to try and make a simple connection.  I believe that romance can not happen until there is a basis of friendship between two people.  That’s not to say that I believe that a man and a woman should be friends only first.  I believe that romance and friendship can blossom simultaneously.

People ask way too many personal questions at the very beginning of a courtship.  It is a complete invasion of privacy.  They always ask the same few questions.

  1. How long was your longest relationship?
  2. When was the last time you were in a relationship?
  3. What went wrong in that relationship?
  4. What kind of guys do you like?
  5. What are you looking for?
  6. Do you have any kids?
  7. Do you want kids?

Geez of Pete.  The interrogation makes me feel like I’m on a job interview or in a pageant or something.  I really don’t even know how to answer the questions.  Well actually, I know the answer to the question but I don’t want to entrust you with the answer because I don’t know you.  You are still a stranger.

I am a friendly person but I do not open up and reveal a lot about myself to people easily.  These guys may genuinely be trying to get to know me but I feel like they are prying.  When did dating become such an invasion of personal space.

I really wish people would just try and find something to talk about.  Find common ground.  If people are going to hit you with a barrage of questions I wish the questions were more like this:

  • Have you read any good books lately?
  • Have you seen any good movies lately?
  • Do you watch any TV shows?
  • Do you know any good places to go out in this town?
  • Do you like sports?  What’s your favorite team?
  • Where did you grow up?
  • Do you have brothers and sisters?

I wish people would focus more on simply getting to know a person as opposed to all the relationship nonsense.  Just because you have a first or second date with a person it does not mean that you and that person will end up in any sort of relationship.  People need to learn to enjoy a person and understand that no one owes anyone anything.  If you can’t simply enjoy a person’s conversation or company at the beginning of a relationship you may be paddling upstream.