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Feminists are delusional and contradict themselves. Feminists need to reevaluate their message. I think feminists are very confusing. Feminists promote bodily autonomy and independence for women but not common sense, discernment and maintaining their dignity and safety.

Feminsts call a provacative image body positivity, confidence, comfortable in their own skin, maturity, feminine and independent. Feminists encourage high risk behavior in women and encourage them to challenge boundaries and take risks in the name of pleasure.

Feminists express disdain for so called patriarchal systems and traditions but when women are hurt by men they appeal for those institutions and social mores for justice and protection. They appeal to the patriarchy i.e. police, courts, sympathetic feeling towards women that they want to dismantle. It doesn’t make sense.

Feminists do not tie discernment, asserting yourself, boundaries and survival instincts to their freedom of movement and choice. It’s I am woman hear me roar until a woman is hurt by someone stronger, smarter, older, wealthier and influential than her.

Feminists disregard women’s instincts, feelings and desires. They ignore the role that a women’s hearts play in relationships with men that they admire, are attracted to and in love with. Feminists don’t teach women how to protect themselves emotionally, spiritually or physically. Feminists set women up to fail and be victims.

Feminists uphold the beliefs that they don’t need boundaries and that they can manage their relationships with men without being taken advantage of or hurt. Feminists need to regroup and form a new message because they play a part in the violence and hostility towards women. They are failing and not holding themselves accountable for their mistakes.

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We live in an era of abuse scandals but there is often no real scandal or a surprise. Why are women surprised when they are mistreated by Chris Brown or Marilyn Manson? In many high profile sex scandals it turns out that the accused had a reputation for his deviant behavior like. The Bill Cosby and Harvey Weinstein cases are examples. The community of successful, famous, beautiful, wealthy and powerful people was aware of the drugs and abuse. But women still chose to go to the parties and participate.

Sometimes the anti social behavior is a part of the stage act. Sometimes the abuse is documented and the accused is tried, convicted and sentenced as in the case of Chris Brown. But there is never a shortage of women wanting to be around these men. Women need to make different decisions for their own benefit.

Why did women choose to be around these men? Feminists need to rebrand and tell women to be smart, discerning and protect themselves. It wouldn’t hurt to encourage women to be prudes and act like they believe men are bears. A pillar of feminism is that women can negotiate the world without a chaperone. But these women needed someone to act and speak on their behalf during their relationships with high profile men. They don’t want to be treated like property but it’s what some of them needed.

I don’t understand how a man that has been accused of abusing women or children seem like a good person to choose as a friend, lover, boyfriend, co parent or husband. P Diddy’s record company is called Bad Boy. He sings that he’s a bad boy for life. Marilyn Manson’s stage persona is one of an androgyny, a Neo Nazi and devil worshipper. Why are you surprised that he’s a mean, weird creep?

To be clear, I’m not standing up for any of these men accused of crimes regardless of the circumstances of their relationship. These men deserve their day in court and should serve their time if convicted or pay a settlement in civil court. I’m not a lawyer and this isn’t about the law. This is about women keeping themselves out of harms way from the start. Women putting themselves at risk doesn’t pay off very often. Even if no crime is committed she is putting herself at risk for hurt feeling and emotional damage. No don’t take a chance on love!

It bothers me that feminists and movements like #metoo focus on celebrities meanwhile abuse of vulnerable women, men and children is ignored. There is a lot of work that needs to be done to stand up for vulnerable people that have been victimized. Modern feminists don’t seem to speak up about abuse when all the victims are poor.

If feminists want women to be protected it will help if they encourage women to be smart, strong, independent and protect themselves by avoiding weirdos and criminals in the first place. Their voice is very important in this matter. Feminists can’t encourage young women to take risks and say nothing when the risk gets people hurt and killed.

Feminist ideas of consent are not realistic. It will never work. Let me emphasize that I’m not talking about legal boundaries. That includes the way women present themselves. I’m talking about boundaries that will help keep women safe from harm. That starts with survival instincts, judging character and discernment. In an ideal world a woman can present herself as if she’s a woman that’s open to anything and participate in a decadent, permissive, highly sexualized environment and have her boundaries respected. The environment is disrespectful from the start.

There was a social media trend that asked women if they would prefer to be alone with a man or a bear. Many said the bear. So why do women end up around men like Marilyn Manson and P Diddy? Why is there a show called “Love After Lock Up” about women (men too but I feel like the circumstances are not the same) that date and marry convicts. I understand why many said the bear but there is a big contradiction between what women say and what many do.

I’m not a fan of Donald Trump but he once said “If you’re rich women will let you do whatever you want”. Trump is proves that theory. He has a horrible reputation for violence and sex crimes but he was elected as president of the US and put an accused rapist on the Supreme Court. I believe his female supporters are fan girls with crushes on him. There is no shortage of women willing to surround Trump with adulation.

Feminists need to speak on women’s attraction to wealthy and powerful men. Women should want a prosperous man. I’m not saying choose poverty. That seems to lead to abuse too. But is a glamorous man worth your safety and dignity? If the answer is yes there is nothing anyone else can do on your behalf until a crime is committed.

I think it’s great that feminists opened opportunities for women to pursue education and careers. A woman’s ability to support herself financially gives her the option to say no to criminals, creeps and weirdos or to leave a bad relationship. Why don’t feminists encourage that? They’re not discouraging women from becoming groupies and door matts for wealthy men. They encourage women to speak up about it after the fact.

Social media feminists that use hash tags like #sexpositive #bodypositive #proho #proheax and #prosexwork need to hold themselves accountable for their poor messaging. I don’t think so called conservatives that promote #tradwife content are much better. It’s a similar message without the glam.

They aren’t encouraging women to have self respect. It has been a big mistake to reject modesty (I don’t think women have to look like they live in a different century) and abstinence until marriage or at least a more prudent attitude towards sex. Women have been taught an unrealistic message about sexuality for decades and it’s created more harm, hostility and disrespect towards women.

I blame feminism and they need to right their wrong. At this stage there has to be a regrouping and a new message for women on how to move forward in the modern world in regards to relationships with men. And no, I don’t think the social media Manosphere has the answers. They need to answer for their messages too. The Manoshphere has been a detriment to men.

The world has changed a lot since the start of the feminist movement in the sixties. Women need to assess the world we’re in and make some personal choices in regards to how to go about relationships with men. It starts with empowering women to be be discerning and maintain boundaries that offer them some respect and protection.

I hope no one is offended by this post. I’m not victim blaming or trying to shame anyone. I hope women will be encouraged to choose male companions based on character and take a poor reputation and image into account. Everyone makes mistakes. Learn from the mistakes of others. I’m on women’s side.